How to raise a child.

Veiled but real

 By Rebecca Ursani

Raising a child is not only about giving birth, growing them up, providing them with all the luxuries, basic necessities and good education and get them married. Bringing up the child is no less than an art. It’s a job that not everyone parent can do smoothly. 

When you bring your baby in this world and welcome him/her in your life, you make a self-promise and to your child as well that you will do your best to give your kid a good and a blissful life and that you will prove yourselves as the ideal parents so that when your child grows up he or she realizes how lucky it is to have parents like you. Unfortunately, some of the parents fail to come up with their own expectations. 

What a grown up actually demands?
 

Parents of course are very much concerned about their kids and their life and future but somewhere at some point they lack the support they are supposed to give their child. An infant is the attention seeker the whole time and luckily gets successful in becoming the center of attention but when it grows up, parents have no time to listen to their hearts. They don’t give an effort to know what is bothering their kid and think their child is thinking on some very futile matter. A grown up kid needs someone in its family who understand his/her problems and with whom he/she can share feelings and the matters that are bothering him/her. What happens is when they doesn’t get any good response or when they have no one to hear them from their family, they seek for someone outside their family on whom they can count and a shoulder to cry on. The results of being ignorant towards their child can lead him/her to depression and committing some serious self-destruction.

Let your child express its ideas. 

It is mostly experienced by the younger ones in the family that they are not supposed to involve themselves in the family matters or some serious sort of issues. They are forbidden to speak and share their ideas in the matters they think can be solved to a little extent. They are considered trifling and stupid enough to raise their voice in the elderly matters. If you don’t let your child speak in their own home then they will never be able to speak up in their social life and would never be able to step forward in their life confidently. 

Don’t pamper your child.

It is good that you take care of your child’s every need and it is even better that you guide them whenever they go off the target. But it is not commendable that you fulfill their every illicit need and support them whenever they stumble. Loving them unconditionally and giving your whole time to your kid does not necessarily mean you are not going to leave your child alone anywhere. Despite the fact that you adore them, they will never be able to polish themselves on their own. When they will step into their practical life, they will feel like a dummy gazing at the long way to head. They will not know how to recover from a small wound, how to cope up with the problems actively and how not to rely on anyone.

Do not impose your decisions on your grown-ups.

It is true that parents are worried and bother about their children at every stage of life but it is not appreciable to impose their ideas and decisions over their children because if they do so, their child might just act upon their decision but he/she will never be able to accept it with the bottom of its heart which means he/she will never be wholly interested in what his/her parents have chosen for them. Be it the education, job, marriage or whatever. Because if anything wrong happens with them they will surely blame their parents for not letting them decide their own path.
Let your child explore the world.

Take some time out of your busy routine and make your child knowledgeable about almost everything. Answer their questions patiently and properly and get their minds clear regarding the problems that are vague in their mind. Take them to the places they have always wanted to see or get them informed everything about the place. This is the way their minds will get sharp and their observation will be getting better and better.


P.S. I am not a parent and the above suggestions are written just by observing. J Good luck to the parents to be! 

Help our Earth- Reduce Global Warming.

Live Smartly!

By Zain Hyder Shah

Before coming to the main point, it is very much important to learn how we are the reason of the massive destructions on Earth. History defines that before industrial revolution the life of human beings and the life of other species on Earth were healthy and smart. 

Have we ever thought why the natural occurring disaster like flood and storm have increased? Why people die by heat stroke? I do not think many people among us were aware about the heat stroke before the deaths happened in Pakistan by heat wave in 2015. Let’s take a close look on this.

The Earth is a planet which is covered by a thin layer of atmosphere and the greenhouse gases. Because of the atmospheric layer the Earth varies its temperature. It can never be so much cold or so much hot. It is an eco-friendly environment where human beings and other species can live without facing atmospheric troubles. Yes but this theory was much more relevant before the rise of industrial revolution. Before 1800 the Earth sphere was covered with the green plants, glaciers and it was safe from pollution.

The industrial revolution made things easy here. But few of us are aware that how much destructive it became after 20th century. The rise of Greenhouse gases is the main reason behind the devastating increase of global warming. Now I will tell you how we are responsible to produce these gases which are the reason of global warming.

 According to the new research by scientists 87 percent emission of carbon dioxide come from burning of fossil fuels like coal, natural gas and industrial process such as cement manufacturing. Human create majority of methane emission by intensive livestock farming, landfills waste and bio fuels. The main reason behind global warming is the emission of fluorinated gases namely (hydrofluorocarbons, perfluorocarbons and sulphur hexafluoride) are almost created by the humans and are used in industrial processes. The HFCs are used inside home appliances like refrigerators and air conditioners. Emission from these products are caused by gas leakage during the manufacturing process and if disposal of gas is not done properly then HFC continues to leak out of it. Deforestation is also a main reason behind the rise of global warming,

Since 2000, 15 top warmest year of Earth had been recorded. 2015 broke all the records by largest margins. If we continue living like we are, we can actually destroy our plant completely and our offspring will suffer by extremely harmful diseases. Scientists claimed the rise of greenhouse gases can completely shatter the lives on Earth by coming year of 2024, and it will be a dangerous place for us. You would probably be thinking how we can reduce it, here are some ways which can actually reduce the global warming.

 

1. Reduce, Reuse, Recycle

Buying products with minimal packaging will help to reduce waste. By recycling half of your household waste, you can save 2,400 pounds of carbon dioxide annually. 

2. Use Less Heat and Air Conditioning

Adding insulation to your walls and installing weather stripping or caulking around doors and windows can lower your heating costs more than 25 percent, by reducing the amount of energy you need to heat and cool your home. Turn down the heat while you’re sleeping at night or away during the day, and keep temperatures moderate at all times. Install a programmable thermostat because setting it just 2 degrees lower in winter and higher in summer could save about 2,000 pounds of carbon dioxide each year.

3. Replace Your Light Bulbs

Wherever practical, replace regular light bulbs with compact florescent light (CFL) bulbs. Replacing just one 60-watt incandescent light bulb with a CFL will save you $30 over the life of the bulb. CFLs also last 10 times longer than incandescent bulbs, use two-thirds less energy, and give off 70 percent less heat. If every family replaced one regular light bulb with a CFL, it would eliminate 90 billion pounds of greenhouse gases, the same as taking 7.5 million cars off the road.

4. Drive Less and Drive Smart

Less driving means fewer emissions. Besides saving gasoline, walking and biking are great forms of exercise. Explore the York Region Transit system and check out options for carpooling to work or school.

When you do drive, make sure your car is running efficiently. For example, keeping your tires properly inflated can improve your gas mileage by more than 3 percent. Every gallon of gas you save not only helps your budget, it also keeps 20 pounds of carbon dioxide out of the atmosphere.

5. Buy Energy-Efficient Products

Home appliances now come in a range of energy-efficient models, and compact florescent bulbs are designed to provide more natural-looking light while using far less energy than standard light bulbs.

6. Use Less Hot Water

Set your water heater at 120 degrees to save energy, and wrap it in an insulating blanket if it is more than 15 years old. Buy low-flow shower heads to save hot water and about 350 pounds of carbon dioxide yearly. Wash your clothes in warm or cold water to reduce your use of hot water and the energy required to produce it. That change alone can save at least 500 pounds of carbon dioxide annually in most households.

7. Use the "Off" Switch

Save electricity and reduce global warming by turning off lights when you leave a room, and using only as much light as you need. And remember to turn off your television, stereo and computer when you're not using them. It’s also a good idea to turn off the water when you’re not using it. While brushing your teeth, shampooing the dog or washing your car, turn off the water until you actually need it for rinsing.

8. Plant a Tree         

If you have the means to plant a tree, start digging. Trees absorb carbon dioxide and give off oxygen. A single tree will absorb approximately one ton of carbon dioxide during its lifetime.

 

9. Get a Report Card from Your Utility Company

Many utility companies provide free home energy audits to help consumers identify areas in their homes that may not be energy efficient. In addition, many utility companies offer rebate programs to help pay for the cost of energy-efficient upgrades.

10. Encourage Others to Conserve

Share information about recycling and energy conservation with your friends, neighbours and co-workers, and take opportunities to encourage public officials to establish programs and policies that are good for the environment.

                                               Help the Lives, Help our planet Earth!

Life of Colors!

Unnoticed but colorful.

By Rebecca Ursani

There are certain things in our life that go unnoticed. In fact, every least of all thing in this world is not useless, they are useful in way or the other. One of those things that we experience in our daily life but do not give it much importance at time, is the colors.
This might sound a little useless and lame to you but if you scrutinize everything your life is revolving around, you will be a better observer and a successful person.

As there are many aspects and different angles of every object, colors also have good and not appealing aspects. Let me tell you how and how many. Colors are something everyone is familiar with, not even an infant can ignore the colorful objects. Colors are attractive and unattractive at same time. 

If we start counting the colors, we will not reach the end of the list of colors because there are uncountable beautiful colors. As colors are thought to be stunning to some people, the same colors horrify some people. Chromo phobia is the fear of colors in which people are afraid of certain colors and avoid to see those colors. For instance, red color reflects the image of blood or danger, yellow is thought to be the sign of danger by getting stung by a bee or burning in scorching heat under the light of yellow sun, black color involves the sign of mourning and death to someone and on and on.

Now, colors in chromo phobia have also a special value that every color’s fear is known by a particular name, for orange, chrysophobia, for black, melano phobia, for yellow, xantho phobia, for red it is erythro phobia and so on. If we talk about flowers, every flower is given the importance according to its respective color. Red is the flower of love, pink is the color of appreciation, white is the color of spirituality and yellow flower if the sign of friendship. However, not all people believe on the significance of colored flowers. 

How about talking about clothes? Clothes, especially by women are wore accordingly and also are matched with the seasons and weather. Light colors are preferred in the summer seasons like light blue, pink, lemon yellow etc. and dark colors are wore in the winter seasons. At times age is also affected by the colors. Aged people do not fancy to wear vibrant colors and are limited to the light and elegant shades. Parallel to that, the young people are livelier and want to try every color on them or just the dark colors as per their choices.

Clothes are often wore according to the moods also. If you are upset you would most likely to wear black, when you are happy you would want to look like a happening person by putting on darker shades, if you want to seeking attention then you would prefer red and if you are feeling like all relaxed and pretty, you would wear beautiful pink.

 Colors are actually used according to the situations also to express the feelings. For mourning someone’s death, black is used, for expressing love and gratitude, red is used, for showing peace white is used and so on. Different religions have also the different values of different colors. For example, red in Hinduism is the color of happiness and purity whereas, for Buddhist devout, red is the color of danger and fire.

Islam is known as the Green religion for it is said that it was the favorite color of the last prophet (P.B.U.H) and that is why it is avoided by a number of families. They are not supposed to use any object that is green. Along with green, there are many other colors which are forbidden for many people with different beliefs. In Hinduism, blue is the color of bravery and manliness because their lords are seen with the blue faces always. While in Judaism, blue is the color of spirituality. Blue is mostly used in Judaism religion for that reminds the people of blue sky and their god above the sky. 

When talking about religions, why leave the nationality behind? Yes, the national flags’ colors are also the symbol of one or the other thing. For instance, American flag colors represent the white for purity, blue for justice and red for hardiness. The Pakistan flag’s green color represents the religion of Islam and the white stripe shows the other religions in minorities. The flag of India has got three colors which reflect the orange color for courage and sacrifice, white for purity and green for prosperity.

The cherry on the top is that colors are also used in idioms to describe your situation i.e. golden opportunity, the green light, have the blues, in the red, white lie and so many more.

When seeing anything colorful makes the mood cheerful and  joyous and that is the reason rainbow also has seven different colors in it to show that there will be no rain after this, no more destruction and no more wetness. Talking about colors bringing joy, Holi festival celebrated by Hindus is most commonly known as the festival of colors which brings people close to each other and make them ridiculously colorful. The reason of enjoying Holi with various colors is the victory of good or evil in the history of Hindu religion.


Ever wondered so many aspects of colors?

Have a colorful life! J

The Reflection of our Society.

Oh weep!
By Zain Hyder Shah

The grief made me deaf;
oh! how can I handle those weeps;
Why are you crying?
Because I am not able to fill the basic needs;
Yes my family weeps;
Oh! look there go and beg;
No I don't want to be thief;
Hey listen please;
Give me your hand;
Help me please;
Hey wait a bit ;
First I have to see my ease;
I will die;
Its okay, they will not ask;
why?
But I will die, Help me please;
No body care for your deeds;
I am in pain, see my old skin;
Don't look at me like this;
Your tears are not worthy; please!
Oh I am missing you God;
Come in their hearts please.

Explore yourself!

Never say no for what you believe in!

By Zain Hyder Shah

 Life gives chance to all of us some people take it and others just let them go because they seek for superior chances. Well we all are born with unique characters and skills. The reason behind our failure is not fate. The biggest reason is our less interest in doing creative things which can also polish our inner skills. For an example I want to quote a common quote "Destiny decides your success" No! It is wrong only your willingness and hard work can take you to the peak of success. I am not fond of this quote and mostly successful people will also subscribe my thoughts.

Unfortunately in third world countries there are not much opportunities, we should not lose any opportunity which will be a forward step of our career. My observation tells me that the less interest of teenager in reading literature and not indulging in practical can be the reason of failure. When we read books it unlocks the creative and exploring parts of brain. When we start reading different literature we start exploring and finding ourselves in the mirror of knowledge.

We all talk a lot about our deprivation, dirty minds of societies and the politics. In those talks we normally criticize others for our bad financial and economical state but we never think that the biggest reason and the biggest person who should have to be criticized is our own self which let others to choose our destiny.

When we grow up we follow every instructions of our parents, we like to obey them even many of us never chose their career and future it has been decided by our parents. Our elders know better about everything, this sentence is a full stop of your exploring ideas. We never seek our own satisfaction because we do not read, we do not explore and we do not seek ourselves.

Are we really preparing to meet the challenges of practical world? I think we are just waiting for some miracles to happen. This is the only reason behind our deprivation on the way to success that we only follow the thoughts of others. We like to just runaway from the situation. We have learned it from our old cultures. I have observed we are not running after knowledge we are running after cheaters. We are not aware by the fact that even magicians work a lot to learn the skills and magic it just not happens in seconds.

Elders are our guide not our feet! They can guide us but the chance of exploring yourself should have to be only yours. You can find better livelihood for yourselves, if you are doing mistakes that's okay. One day your those mistakes can be your biggest lessons of successful life.

If you really want to do something for the society then you can do it by getting rid of older thoughts. Change is a rule of nature so like change should be the rule of our culture and of thoughts too!

Once you start reading and exploring your world you can feel that everything around you has suddenly changed. Even your eyes will start to see different views of everything. You feel like you are observing everything with different thoughts and that's the time when the time will push you to the paths of success!

You just need to see things with a different angle, with a new lens in your eyes. Like you always want something new in your wardrobe, you should start wanting new thoughts so you can be able to polish your skills and explore yourself! When you start changing yourself in a positive manner the society will start following you.

Ordinary feelings of love!

Lover’s diary.

By Zain Hyder Shah

 

Moments in life are surrounded by different kind of feelings. Moments become special when a person feels happy, excited and emotional. Every passing year keeps a memory in one’s brain and heart. It is a natural phenomenon to indulge in people you feel attractive. It is very easy to fall in love with people who share same nature and likeness.

 You must have heard the saying “opposite attracts” well it does and when you start your relation with friendship there are many possibilities that it ends with breaking up because of expectations and hurt , some friendships turn in to the relationships and the bond of two bodies which later becomes one soul will stay forever. Well, love is not a feeling which remains for only a particular person. Lovers are your friends, partners, parents and strangers also there is a love with nature.

Sometimes a cup of coffee on the beach and your favourite book can make your day. You actually endure the sensitivity inside heart which keeps you attached with beauty for everything you love to happen. Everyone has different meaning to see and realize the beauty, introverts mostly fall for the beauty of inside which is kindness and honesty, extroverts crave for the beauty of skin and physical appearances.

Sometimes your boredom keeps you away from excitement. Another time can be spent with the fantasy in your mind, the desire which really keep you busy in dreaming and making the sequences of your bright scenes of future. Here, thoughts play an important and effective role. Thoughts are very powerful. They can take you to the sky in jiffy and you can feel high with the imaginations of your mind-blowing passion. Love is not only a thought, it is also a supreme feeling of honesty. It includes immense feeling of care for someone who is very close to you and to your body. 

Love is not only a word, it’s a diversity of different human emotions which keeps you attached with your lovers. Love is an ecstasy, which let your brain to be on the peak of feeling high with arousal effects on brain and heart. 

The true determination of your honesty towards a particular person and his/her beliefs is a complete love. It’s all about being loved and how to love the feeling of love.

Pages of life

Ordinary feelings in life!

By Rebecca Ursani

People say life is only lived once so make the most out of it without any stress or depression taking over you. But then a life without sadness is like a story book without a plot twist. Why it that all the pleasures in our life are taken for is granted and the miseries are given more importance, though, neither of them last forever.
One does not need to be much observant to examine the life which is divided into several chapters and sub divided into the main sections, happiness, despair, struggles and success. It is felt that out of all the four sections only happiness lasts for a short period, the success lasts forever while the other two stay for a quite good time. Feelings and emotions are the two that demand the control over us but it depends upon us whether we let our feelings rule our heart and mind or we keep our emotions under control in order to live a balanced life. There are possibilities that history of life repeats itself but the exact moments cannot be relived. Hence, the only bad thing about life is that we cannot undo our regrets, we cannot rewind the moments we had cherished once or so.
 Feelings and emotions are often misunderstood. They are thought to be the same. Feelings are the ones that you experience on daily basis towards anything you experience and emotions are born when something unusual happens unlike the daily routine. So, there are different emotions and different feelings on every stage of life. When you are in despair or you fail from giving whatever best, you think all the curses are counted in your fate and that you just want to discontinue your life. Suddenly everything turns out to be odd and eerie to you and that is just it but that is not. Prior to that, when you are happy, everything seems to be in your favor, the world seems colorful, you enjoy even the baby’s annoying cry and you think your life on wards will be easier. However, if we think sensibly, these two do not play their roles in our life for a longer time. They are just temporary.

 As life is unpredictable, people in our life are also confused. The one who suffers from a very deep grief only knows how it is like to suffer from that situation rather than the one who sympathizes them. Like when death occurs of someone very close to a man, the other people console him not to cry for that will only hurt the departed soul. How do they expect that man not to sob over his closed one’s death and weep when they experience the same situation! How do they comfort when you lose your something very valuable and tell you that you will get another the next time! When you are extremely joyous, people wish you luck but inside they are envious, they wish the same for them that you have already and why is it that when you are planning for your good future they come and tell you they are with you but on your back they wish to be your competent and leave you behind. It is not about the people being so deceiving and cruel, it is about the life that has involved so many people and tying so many relationships with them that you are bound to celebrate and share your life with them.
 Human desires for happiness for his entire life but it is in the human nature that it cannot maintain its interest over one thing for an extended period. As a matter of fact, a book can be read twice or thrice or a movie can be watched more than thrice but at some point humans get bored watching or reading the same thing again and again. Likewise, a point comes in life, sooner or later, that the human loses interest of happiness too. He prefers isolation at times, stays quiet at social gatherings and intentionally wants to become a pessimist.

There is no life without both the thrill and depression together is incomplete because they walk shoulder to shoulder as the footsteps walk side by side.