January
2017.
Years passing by and so is life speeding. Another new year to make the most of
it so why not try making every month beautiful in every little manner. J
It has been only a month of 2017 and I have already started feeling some hard
challenges coming my way. I had expected January to be polite to me as it was
in the beginning but as soon as this month came to an end, it showed me its
real face. Life is not always sweet like chocolates and soft like roses;
sometimes the chocolate turns out to be unpleasant to us and roses sting us
thorns unknowingly.
What I accomplished in this month was:
1. I stopped complaining to Allah about things that bother me but I did not
stop praying. I still need a lot of motivations to have leaving everything upon
Allah and stay relieved, but that just doesn’t help. Staying calm and live a
stress free life is just not my thing.
2. I have become somehow a fast reader. I completed three novel stories in this
month and this is a huge achievement for me because I was never this a good
reader. The three books were The Floating Girl by Sujata Massey, The Naked Face
and Bloodline by Sidney Sheldon.
3. I got a best friend in my home, in my family. I don’t know what the barriers
were but I couldn’t build a sister-sister or sister-brother relationship within
us siblings. I always wanted someone who could stay next to me and listen to my
secrets or problems. And I finally found one this month, that is, my dearest
Bhabhi.
Overall, January was not that bad to me. I had more a fun-filled and less a
depressing one. I hope your January was also as good as mine or may be even
better and I pray that the next months may also brighten up our lives. Looking
forward to a not so frantic but a favorable February. :)
Hypocrisy, Negativity and Pessimism.
What comes in your mind when you think of today’s modern era? You’ll know the
answer by the end of this blog, hopefully. A couple of days ago, I took out
some time for myself and as I wonder what to think even before thinking about
something; my mind swirled around and stopped at a very strange point that is,
why am I such a pessimist person. I have never in my life gotten answer of this
but guess what, I have transformed myself into an optimistic person quite a
little.
Today I want to write about why there is so much negativity and hatred in our
society and how possibly we can terminate all of the negativity from ourselves
as well as from our surroundings.
Hypocrisy is what you call backbiting in its ordinary sense. This act has
become very common these days that it does no more seem a sinful act to us.
Hypocrisy is, according to me, a contagious disease that spreads person by
person and I don’t understand what inner satisfaction people get by being a
hypocrite. The main reason of playing a
hypocrite game is that people often want to show themselves as a very good and
innocent person but in real they are like a poisonous snake which when stings,
causes death. The second reason is people do this in order to favor someone or
they do buttering so that their favorite people do not get their attentions
diverted of them. Among these factors count uneducation, nepotism, jealousy
etc. which lead people towards hypocrisy which further leads to negativity and
the cycle goes on. Negativity, in turn, proceeds to pessimism.
Talking about
negativity: it has a negative impact on everyone and everything like an
electron possess a negative charge on it but is still important in its own
role. Likewise, today our society has become so mean that very few people think
about others’ happiness. Caring about others is so rare that it puts a person
almost in doubt that there must be some selfishness behind his/her good deed. Generous
acts are rather taken suspicious and are often not fruitful. We get negative
vibes from people who try to be more polite to us or show their virtuousness
and misunderstand people who actually are intended to harm us but pretend to be
the sweetest ones. That’s what lacks in most of us, the ability to identify the
right and wrong and the fake and real people.
A month ago I was thinking if all the rape cases in Pakistan do actually occur
or is it just the media that puts forward such cases and spoils the public’s
mindsets about their own country. I think the more media presents such
horrifying cases to the world, the more these cases get stronger and increase
day by day. This is what I would declare spreading negativity and not having
control over it. We need to reduce this.
Coming towards pessimism, as I wrote above that pessimism takes birth from
negativity. Being a pessimistic person is equal to living a dead life, having
no hopes, no sparks in life, no sunshine in life, nothing. What is the use of
living such life? Why do we always forget that whatever has meant to be, it
will happen and our hopeless thoughts are not going to change anything, whether
good or bad. I used to be a person like this but not anymore. I try to live a
tension free life and am always looking for solutions of problems that trouble
me instead of weeping over senseless matters like before.
My aim of writing all about this was that there are many major issues that we
come across daily in our lives but are passed unnoticed, should also be given a
thought and that we all could work on reducing these troubles in one way or the
other.
Stay happy and spread happiness. J
January
2017.